like any other teenager, I have this problems that are not connected to my marriage life cause am way too young to be a wife and I am SERIOUSLY SINGLE.
I am about to have one of those sessions of talking to myself and this time, my problems are weighing dowmn on me I find myself switching accents.
I do one quick British accent aloud forgetting am not alone in the room, my lil cousin Jay, he’s there, gazing lost in his phone. “Nicole umeniongelesaha?”
“Nicole, you talking to me?”
Today is one of those days which I’mma not let anything get me down…honestly, I started typing around 6.40 p.m…It’s now 7.30 .
Sometimes you really convince yourself that you love someone, that they’re your everything. Suddenly, they do something then in the moment your fantasy of them falls apart and all the love you fell goes down in smoke with it and finally you see them for what they really are.
Hey guys, sorry, been having a lot of struggles but I’ll try to post, thanks all for the love.
Just like that, feelings start flowing and I have drawbacks, I was OK, for the past 6 days or so. Reality starts looking like some dream , am wondering, 6 days ago I was the happiest person, with myself, my progress, my cousin (of course she’s the one and only) , dancing at 12 midnight almost everyday… (while babysitting my lil cousin).
And now, I don’t even know , if it’s me, or if it’s the real me coming back to the impostor me. I know my smiles have been genuine, I know my talks have been true, I know my clothes fit me well,
right…? I mean right?
I know I haven’t changed, but the saddest part is , I feel like am turning into someone I said I’ll never become.
This evil me is telling me to
“Stop being forgiving because people usually know what the fvck they are doing.”,
while the angel in me is saying ,
“Those who are heartless once cared too much, so you still care and you’re not heartless Nick… or are you?” .
The evil side still goes on like ,
” You’ve been left on, cheated on, lied to, mislead but you still out here trynna love?, respect yourself bro!”
As always, my angel will come to the rescue and give an opinion,
“Look at you, you used to have a special bond, with him, her, them, but now, ya’ll changed, be yourself, keep going, it’s not your fault there’s a reason for everything right?.”
The question marks at the end make me feel guilty for a while, honestly, I don’t know why.
Yes, as I was saying…
For the 100th time, my devil comes in
” A mf will have you feeling special, and dumb at the same time. Maybe you are really dumb😂😂🙄”
Maybe I am dumb, but some part of me is always damn tho 😂🤔 …
I consider the thought for a while, until my guardian comes to the rescue…
“Sometimes, I know you feel like people be doing you wrong because they know you’ll still be there, but that’s who you are…but don’t regret being good to people, cause one day, they’ll wish they still had that. And that is what makes you isn’t it?”
The battle in my head goes on for a while , for a second, I’m grunting too loud everyone around me stops what they had been focused on and throw weird glances… even the TV goes mute for a while.
Ignoring them stares… I stand up and walk to the bathroom or washroom, loo even, whatever you call it. It’s my quiet place, it’s my home of thought’s, until Nolan knocks asking ,
there’s nothing honorable than Loyalty, noble even. But blind loyalty, that is a stupid and dangerous thing. Be loyal with your eyes open, cause that way, you’ll know where they going and therefore, you’ll know where your going. I pray that’s the case with me and you. You and him, and her, and them.
“All beings, be it plants , animals or human walk a path on a journey for an answer…
Every day hundreds of journeys end, but that does not stop the ones who loved them from stopping because they know that they will meet again at the end.
So if I am to fall, please, keep walking and I’ll wait for you at the finish line.”
“If you fall… then I will carry you until you can walk again.
We’re friends right?
We can walk the same path and I’ll make sure we pass the finish line together.
So… don’t worry about falling over. I’ll pick you up again and patch up your wounds. We will make it to the end.”
Social dynamics is a term stemmed from the idea of the change in the behavior of an individual due the influence of those around him or her in a group or at an individual level. Communication today is one of the most important skill, not everyone is a good communicator and faces the side effects of not being able to communicate well. Surviving in the world today you must know the proper to act when in a public setting. If you are unable to communicate properly. You may be cast as an out-cast. The social dynamics help you gauge what kind of behavior is acceptable in what setting. You cannot behave in the same manner wherever you go. For instance if you go to a formal meeting you need to follow the decorum of the meeting and behave keeping in mind all the etiquette’s and mannerisms. However, if you go to your best friend’s place for a slumber you must not behave like the way you behaved in the office meeting. If you do so, your best friend might drag you to the hospital to get you checked if you are in your senses.
We learn to communicate from the moment we are born. We cry when we want attention, food and to get changed. Here are a few things that will help you communicate in a more effective way.
The attitude, behavior & body language in an individual’s conversation puts a lot of impact on the issue of the talk. The qualities of honesty, peace, optimism, culture, etc. elevate your temperament and improve your communication skills.
2. Understand the Unspoken Words
While communicating there are some unspoken words like in the form of gestures, facial expressions, feelings, emotions etc. that put across the intentions of the individual easily. To understand these unspoken words helps to understand what the other person wants to say. In fact, these unspoken words are an integral part of social dynamics as it gives you a glimpse into the personality and thoughts of those who are communicating with you.
3. Be aware of the changing environment
The world around you is changing constantly, and so are the people as every one of us are finding ways and means to adapt ourselves to these changes. With time, we recognize that we have changed and adapted to the changes in our environment.Noticing these changes can make it easier for you to come up with the right words while talking to your colleagues and using the right gestures to make them feel comfortable with you.
4.Learn to listen
Listening is the best way to communicate. A good listener is a good communicator. When you pay close attention and listen to what a person has to say you are able to learn a lot of thing you wouldn’t have had if you didn’t listen attentively. In an argument most people do not listen and keep saying what they want that gives the fire more fuel. If you first listen to what the other person has to say, you might as well understand the point. If not then you might be able to respond in a better way and give your input properly. If we develop the habit of listening to others our communication skills will drastically improve.
5.Pay Attention To The Body Language
Body language is considered to be the 70% of every conversation. Most people are unaware of the phenomenon that we converse more with our bodies rather than our mouths. We use the gift of able bodies to assist what our mouth is saying. Body language includes the stature, hand gestures, facial expressions and even the pitch and tone of your voice. Each of them impact what you are saying. The same sentence can sound different if you say it in different tones. Body language is what puts the life in our sentences. We can use our body language to imply things that our mouth is not uttering.
Listening is the utmost part for developing the communication skills.Effective communication skills give you the ability to relate with others on an interpersonal level. But we tend to run into trouble when our lines of communication get crossed. Misunderstandings arise as a result of miscommunications. communication takes place any time there is a sender, a message, and a receiver. The form of message can take many forms, which is likely why we sometimes have difficulty interpreting what others are trying to communicate.
Effective communication skills increase ability to be heard and understood. They also increase the confidence and self esteem by empowering us to speak out.
Work on it and save your drowning relationships, it’s just that simple, listen attentively and communicate where need be, it will work I promise🤗❤
As I take a seat beside my dad, the world seems so calm, everyone seems so concerned, relatives you never known, friends you never met, the love you never felt, buh I wake up to realization that it was all in my head. I liked it when it was real. When I really used to feel, when I could wake up in the morning with thought’s of getting you mad, asking if you fine and you would give honest replies, right now, it’s getting old, the same questions, same answers, nothing new, nothing to share, nothing to genuinely talk about, cold , warm, look-warm, hot, all this different reactions, I don’t know which one to actually pick as the realest. Sure reassurance hit’s when it’s least expected I had that a couple of times, a thousand I guess… But I want what works with me, for me and the people I’m gon’ come across. I don’t want to judge everyone and be afraid simply because we missed a step. I ain’t a saint, got my own fair share of flaws, I work on them on me, on a daily, not for anyone, but for me and my peace. I’m laying this down easy, I can’t fight myself. I can’t break my own heart cause maybe my idea of this is different from yours, retracing my footsteps back, hope I’ll find who I used to be.
It’s a question that often plagues people after a painful break-up: What went wrong? As they work to figure out the answer, people typically create new relationship stories, analyzing the events leading up to the breakup and using them to build a cohesive narrative. In some cases, this type of storytelling can be positive, helping people to make sense of—and come to terms with—painful things that happen to them. Other times, though, the storytelling process can be a negative one, compounding pain rather than easing it.
Many stories are similar to the ones I’d heard from friends after their own breakups. The refrains were familiar: “Why wasn’t I good enough?” or “Is there something wrong with me?” When people see ex-partners in new relationships, they often ask themselves: “What does she or he have that I don’t?”
While a new relationship will definitely help get over the past quicker, it is not a healthy way of dealing with rejection.
This isn’t just bad for you; you will be potentially hurting the other person’s feelings.
Give yourself time. Don’t start a new relationship when you still have unfinished emotional business.
Well no parent wants to accept the bitter truth or come to acceptance that their kid is probably into drugs .
Kids that use drugs, smoke and drink are more likely to have parents who’ve used cannabis
This is not entirely true because I know people whose parents never even seen how weed looks like but still they are caught in daze and disappointment that their own bloodline is. Well let us see what’s all the buzz about.
Marijuana is usually rolled and smoked like a cigarette (joints or doobies), or put in hollowed-out cigars (blunts), pipes (bowls), or water pipes (bongs). Recently, it has become increasingly popular for people to inhale marijuana or stronger marijuana extracts using a vaporizer (called “vaping” or “dabbing”). Some people mix it into food or brew it as a tea.
Long-Term Effects
Research has found that people who use marijuana over a long period of time can have more lasting side effects. For example:
Changes in the brain. Marijuana can affect the parts of the brain that play a role in our ability to remember, multitask, and pay attention.
Fertility issues. Animal studies suggest that using a lot of marijuana might be linked to decreased sperm count in men and delayed ovulation in women. Pregnant women who use marijuana might be more likely to have babies with developmental and behavioral problems.
Respiratory problems. People who smoke marijuana a lot can develop problems with the respiratory system — like more mucus, a chronic cough, and bronchitis.
Immune system problems. Using marijuana a lot might make it harder for the body to fight off infections.
Emotional problems. People who use a lot of marijuana are more likely to say they notice signs of depression or anxiety. If someone has a condition like schizophrenia or bipolar disorder, marijuana can sometimes make symptoms worse.
There is more than what I might have been able to gather. The truth is, as much as we are ignoring the, fact that weed is or might be a danger , it still remains the truth. Many countries have been on the run to legalize the consumption of weed. Marijuana is legal in more than 12 countries in the world. In 2018, Canada became one of the countries alongside Uruguay, Australia, and the Netherlands to legalize marijuana for medical and recreational purposes. Many states in the US including California, Colorado, Ohio, and Nevada have legalized marijuana.
But all in all, everything that has a disadvantage has an advantage to help maintain the balance. Apart from the medicinal purpose of it, I can’t fully highlight it’s benefits , if you might know,kindly, share with the curious ones like me.
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